I know that I want to leave. I want to run, and I can run. I am either running 18 miles or getting drunk in the house and yelling. What happened to fun drinking? What happened to drinking with others? I guess, that could be a condition. Only drink when I am out. Boy, that would cost a fortune. I asked ChatGPT how to stop feeling envious of people with money, and the response I got is below with my commentary. I'm really tired of haranguing Marcus and all the other people with money who get to do all the things. Does it all go back to WVA and that moment in the sun with a little money? Well, we are there now, but we have to pay back those years of
First, it's okay to feel envy sometimes. It doesn’t make you shallow or greedy; it makes you human. Money often symbolizes security, freedom, or status, so it's natural to compare. The key is in how you respond to those feelings.
This is the big one. When I see people with money or doing things that we can't afford, or choose not to do, it triggers me. It takes me back to 2019 and lying on the floor, passed out. I remember the day so clearly. Having the kids in skiing is a window into the lives of the rich. The houses, the ski trips, and their total lack of awareness. I sorta want to say to people, do you know that you sound like you are bragging? However, do I want to be friends with poor people who complain about not having money? I guess there is no answer. Both the rich and the poor focus on their problems. It is hard to find the sweet spot. And grammarly stinks. I want to say things, the way I want to say them. Don't make me sound like everyone else. The modern world seeks to erase the individual.
💡 Here are a few ideas to help shift your mindset:
Focus on your values. What truly brings you joy or fulfillment? Connection, creativity, learning, peace—these things often cost little and mean a lot. I don't know. I value hard work. More accurately, I value working hard toward a goal. I value laughter. I value adventure. I value a job well done. I value learning.
Practice gratitude daily. Even just listing three things you’re grateful for can rewire your brain to see abundance over scarcity. I am grateful for the dogs. Somehow these dogs became family and I am so happy we have them. They are living the life. They do not worry. They trust that we will provide food, shelter, and water for them. They just lay around and enjoy basking in the sun.
Get curious instead of critical. When you notice envy creeping in, pause and ask yourself: “What does this person’s life make me want more of? Is it freedom? Recognition? Adventure?” Then figure out how to get closer to that feeling on your own terms. I have had to say no to many things. When the kids were little it was always no because Tucker had some event and I could not go out. Then it was no because I was tired and the meeting was too late. It was no because I did not want to go and expend the energy to meet people. I enjoyed Crossfit this spring. I did not participate in classes but it was fun to
Limit comparison triggers. Social media is like a highlight reel—it rarely shows the behind-the-scenes struggles. Stepping back can help you reconnect with your own path.
Define your version of success. Try writing down what a rich life looks like for you. You might find it’s not about money at all.
🛤️ Envy can point to unmet needs or dreams, so treat it as a signal rather than a shame. There’s power in turning that feeling into motivation—not to match someone else, but to honor what matters to you.
Would you be open to exploring what "having more" means to you personally? We might uncover something surprising.
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